Common Mistakes Women Make When
Shopping For Men,
By Betsy Matthes
Are you tried of nagging your husband to go shopping with you for clothing he really needs? Do you go out and buy things for him on your own, only to find he rewards you by refusing to wear them? The right clothes are hard enough to come by, even when we are shopping for ourselves. When shopping for the men in our lives – whether husbands, boyfriends, or sons – their resistance only compounds the problem.
Betsy Matthes, author of “Dressing the Man you Love,” addresses the common struggle of women to help their men look their best, and even collaborate in the process. She suggests strategies women can use to achieve results that will please both you and him. But first, it’s important that women recognize their role in perpetuating the problem. Here are five common mistakes women make when shopping for their men, with tactics to help you avoid them.
Durkin Matthes is
the author of “Dressing the Man You Love, A Woman’s Guide to
Purchasing, Coordinating, and Caring for His Classic Wardrobe,”
released by Peter’s Pride Publishing in May 2006.
Articles & Reviews
These are the things that people are saying about Dressing the Man You Love: A Woman's Guide to Purchasing, Coordinating and Caring for His Classic Wardrobe
Ladies, have you ever looked at your beloved and thought, ‘He could use a makeover?’ Well now is your chance. Purchase a copy of Dressing the Man you Love and you will become an expert in men’s fashion...
- Shirley Roe, Allbooks Reviews
Yves Saint Laurent once said “Fashions fade, style is eternal.” Betsy Durkin Matthes, in her book “Dressing the Man You Love” gives age-old advice on dressing the man in style, not in fashion. Her concise and all-encompassing book covers every aspect from planning, to styles, to fabrics, to accessories. There isn’t one aspect that Matthes left out.
- Irene Watson, Reader Views
Dressing the Man You Love is a handy guide written especially for women, but invaluable to anyone who has to learn the basics of men's fashion and get a man's wardrobe looking presentable - including men themselves! ...an absolute "must-have" help manual for male-fashion challenged.
- The Midwest Book Review
Either men or women would find this an invaluable guide to building the perfect wardrobe for a man. Matthes’ concise, clear, and detailed manner, laced with a touch of humor, is accessible to nearly everyone.
-Jamie Engle, ForeWord Magazine
Betsy Durkin Matthes covers everything from executing 3 different knots for a regulation tie to the 3 basic categories of men's shoes. This reference book is truly a great guide to purchasing, coordinating and caring for a man's wardrobe. Ladies, to show your appreciation for your well-dressed man, buy your copy today...
T. Thema Martin, Editor-in-Chief, Cosmopolite
...author Betsy Durkin Matthes
how to help the men in their lives dress better “ without breaking
the bank or heading for divorce court in the process.”
I cannot praise Dressing the man You Love too highly; it is witty, it is erudite, and above all it is useful. The author has a positively encyclopedic knowledge of all aspects of menswear and attendant etiquette, and has channeled that knowledge into the most comprehensive book on men’s dressing I have ever encountered─though I have not encountered many. Perhaps that is the author’s greatest triumph─in seeking to fill a small niche, she has created a definitive work. I must also say that the author has made a number of sound stylistic decisions. The cover, particularly, is absolutely charming. I could praise this book for pages, as I have said, but I will simply wish the author luck finding an audience for this fantastic effort.Judge’s Commentary - 14th Annual Writer's Digest International Self-Published Book Awards
Meticulously researched with detailed drawings of every aspect of male attire, Dressing the Man You Love is a great book for browsing. There is something to learn on every page.
Constance Alexander "Main Street columnist"
it seems are the days when men took pride in their appearance.
Glamorous nights spent at the theatre and escorting their wives to
cocktail parties are a thing of the past, surely? Possibly not. In
Betsy Durkin Matthes' new book, "Dressing the Man You Love",
women are given pointers on how to enhance and preserve their
partners' wardrobe. The book is warm and witty, and equally enjoyable
for both sexes. This isn't a staid or boring etiquette book... On
the whole; this is an invaluable tool to help us all keep looking
have read many women's books on how to dress with style, and how to
dress for your body type. This book honestly rivals most books
written for women. I really wished she would write a book on how to
dress yourself. I can't praise this book enough, I have learned a
great deal about men's clothing, and with a resource in hand, making
suggestions will go much easier in the future!!
absolutely loved this book. I'm not a slob, but I'm not one to be
overly concerned with my dress and appearance - hence, I'm like most
men. This book provides outstanding tips to dress for many business
and formal occasions. This book reads very fast as the author Betsy
Matthes keeps the material light, friendly, but insightful...
I liked this book from the
first moment I saw the sweet drawing on the cover. Once I started
reading, things got even better....
Betsy Durkin Matthes has written a charming, witty and entirely sensible guide to improving your man's look or if he's already a sharp dressed man; maintaining it....This is really the only book you'll need on men's fashion and best of all, Matthes is not saying to wildly go in and tell your man that he looks bad and start buying all new everything. She advocates, discretion, kindness and class. Thisi book will show you how to be helpful, not a snobby dictator. I really liked it.
Kimberley Wilson - Amazon.com book reviews
This book is an invaluable tool for all
people ~~ I plan to keep it on hand for when my boys are old enough to
start wearing suits or when they need special clothes for special
occasions. Even then, this is an invaluable tool to have on hand for
any occasion that might arise. It is clear-cut, concise and very
informative... If you are looking on tips on how to dress your husband,
son or any man, this book is definitely one that you should run to the
store and grab a copy of! Even if you're not planning to dress anyone,
this book is so interesting that it can enhance your knowledge of the
male fashion world (which I will admit that I know nothing about). It
is definitely a keeper!
While the title suggests this "servant"
role for women, the actual text offers continual hints on how to
educate and involve the man in choosing and caring for his own
traditional clothing. This is what made this book worth my while to
read. I have no desire to be the "mommy" for my male partners, but I do
value having information to offer them when they ask my advice, which
they will. I learned a lot from this book, and I'll keep it around to
look up information next time a man around here needs a new suit or a
few more business outfits.
Betsy Durkin Matthes has a wonderful
guide, easy to follow, and a creative mixture of how to's with
explanations to get you going. Helping a man develop a sense of style
or enhance his already notions of fashion get an upbeat makeover from
Matthes. Weaving her understanding of color, accessories, and other
distinctly male clothing lines this book is a guide that isn't tide to
trends or seasons. Matthes blends etiquette and shopping tips to make
those trips to the tailor easier and more fun. It's a learning
experience on the gentleman's version of My Fair Lady... Behind every
great man is a woman and Betsy Durkin Matthes is one of them.
This book is packed with information and
details and could be a textbook for an actual class in men's fashions -
but it's a FAR more enjoyable read! It answers every question you might
have about men's clothing, with details on care, coordination of colors
and patterns, and lots of insight on how to minimize body "flaws" and
maximize strong points... If you want a man to look polished,
professional and handsome, if you want to turn a "guy" into a
gentleman, and if you want hints on how to nudge your man towards the
best clothes choices, buy this book!
Yvonne V. Wibbe - Amazon.com book reviews
Betsy Durkin Matthes' book DRESSING THE MAN YOU LOVE is a tour de force illustrated guide to helping a man dress his best according to classic standards of clothing excellence. The illustrations and tone of DRESSING harken to a more civilized time when people expected men to be gentlemen and consistently look their best, while it presents an up-to-date modern awareness of materials and style.
...Matthes sets precisely the right mood for helping anyone dress their favorite man to the nines, regardless how little they may already know. With a friendly tone, DRESSING inspires, educates, and helps to empower and embolden us to offer solid mens fashion assistance in ways that make a huge difference.
...Matthes consistently achieves the perfect balance between providing the "big picture" of fashion planning and a wealth of information on all the little things that together make such a big difference in the overall look.
Cynthia Sue Larson "www.realityshifters.com" - Amazon.com book reviews
Being a man, it was not easy for me to sit down and read this book based on its title. I must admit that I did not know what I was going to get out of this book. However, after reading the book I must now admit that I have learned much from Betsy Matthes' book.
Overall, I was happy to have read the book. I have learned that some of my own dressing habits need to change. It's amazing how much you don't realise goes into dressing for success until you see it in this work. Good job Betsy!
Roy Ingle - Amazon.com book reviews
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